Don't pick an Role model - pick a Nemesis

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Don't pick an Role model - pick a Nemesis

Post by ElectricMonk » Mon Oct 01, 2018 8:15 am

Just a quick thought I had:

I would have much preferred to be told to find a nemesis instead of a role model: instead of aspiring as good as X, trying to distance myself as far as possible from Y might have been a much better strategy.
No idol survives scrutiny, which might lead to big disappointment: it's easy to deflate a larger-than-life figure to a flawed human.
But it is even easier to utterly demonize someone you know you don't want to be like (or like the mental image you make of them).
In school or work, picking someone you just want to be better than could be a great motivator and is easy to verify progress.

Sometimes it is better to have a compass that tells you where not to go.


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Re: Don't pick an Role model - pick a Nemesis

Post by Dimebag » Mon Oct 01, 2018 11:49 am

I'm not sure a nemesis would be the best option, maybe an example of the wrong path to take in life, basically a depiction of hell, or at least hell on earth, to avoid, and something good to aim towards, a person who they can admire for the right reasons. Now the real difficulty is teaching a young person WHAT they should value. They need to learn to delay gratification, so they can work towards their goals, rather than being overcome by immediate pleasures.

They need to learn the importance of hard work. Also the importance of building relationships with others. Just a few thoughts I've formed while trying to raise kids.

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Re: Don't pick an Role model - pick a Nemesis

Post by Gord » Mon Oct 01, 2018 1:36 pm

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Re: Don't pick an Role model - pick a Nemesis

Post by Monster » Mon Oct 01, 2018 2:24 pm

ElectricMonk wrote:Just a quick thought I had:

I would have much preferred to be told to find a nemesis instead of a role model: instead of aspiring as good as X, trying to distance myself as far as possible from Y might have been a much better strategy.
No idol survives scrutiny, which might lead to big disappointment: it's easy to deflate a larger-than-life figure to a flawed human.
But it is even easier to utterly demonize someone you know you don't want to be like (or like the mental image you make of them).
In school or work, picking someone you just want to be better than could be a great motivator and is easy to verify progress.

Sometimes it is better to have a compass that tells you where not to go.


PS: feel free to ignore
Who would have chosen as your nemesis? After thinking about this for only 2 seconds, I thought about Jesus. He practiced and recommended asceticism, which I think is a very ugly thing to recommend for people.
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Re: Don't pick an Role model - pick a Nemesis

Post by ElectricMonk » Mon Oct 01, 2018 2:34 pm

Joseph Smith and George W. Bush would have made the top ten.

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Post by Monster » Mon Oct 01, 2018 10:12 pm

Gandhi and his maniacal pacifism keep coming to mind for me.
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Post by Lance Kennedy » Tue Oct 02, 2018 12:56 am

Donald Trump.

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Post by Wordbird » Mon Oct 29, 2018 3:32 am

Goldilocks.

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Re: Don't pick an Role model - pick a Nemesis

Post by Matthew Ellard » Mon Oct 29, 2018 5:59 am

Hawkeye from the TV show M*A*S*H*

1) He made the Korean war look like a fun place to go .

2) The Korean war only went for two years, yet he stretched it out for ten years to keep the TV show going

3) He never once actually ran away or went AWOL while pretending to be a peace-lover.

What a bastard!!!!

(and my tongue is firmly in my cheek)